Human beings are capable of understanding and influencing their environment and the course of their lives to a tremendous degree. We regularly rely upon our ability to achieve favorable circumstances through the application of reason and will. And yet, sometimes things happen that we did not anticipate and perhaps did not even deserve. When unexpected events are unfavorable they are generally discounted as “bad luck”. Those that benefit us have long been associated with what is called Grace. Celebrated as a “gift of God”, Grace reminds us that we are not “in charge” and that we would do well to remain open to unexpected aid, benefits and blessings. Grace keeps both shame and hubris in check.
The tradition of making New Year’s resolutions reinforces the idea that we can create desired changes in our lives; and draws attention to those that are needed. While making resolutions can be a helpful exercise, it can also keep us stuck in the idea that our worth lies in what we “do” rather than in that we “are”. It keeps us entwined in the illusion of self-sufficiency. (And, if what we do doesn’t lead to the desired results, we’re likely to feel bad about ourselves - which does no one any good).
Consider the difference between making resolutions and being guided by intentions - and notice some of the many ways that your life is shaped by factors beyond your control. As you move through the day, notice life’s beauty, generosity and clarity. Practice “receiving” these gifts with gratitude - feeling yourself supported by mystery, as if you were floating on water. You might start at mealtimes by “saying Grace” in a way that acknowledges your interdependence.
May honoring Grace in your life inspire you to be a source of needed Grace for others.